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Day 196 – Blaming is uncool, Irresponsible. Stop it with Breathing.

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I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to still blame people when things don’t go my way.

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to blame and find faults when I am interrupted or disturbed, instead of talking things out and reaching to an agreement. I forgive me for opting to blame. 

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to not realize, by blaming a solution will not come by, in fact the situation will remain as is or only get worse, therefore I see/realize I must direct myself to avoid the issues within a practical plan. 

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to blame others whenever something goes wrong in my routine, or sleep, or work etc, in all that believing that somebody is at fault for disturbing my way of life. 

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to not realize, blaming is shifting responsibility, instead of me taking responsibility for myself to sort things out, I take the easy way out which is blaming. in this I see/realize I will have to see the practical situation, how, why and what is causing the disturbance in my routine, and how I can resolve it, and then put a working plan in place, whereas blaming is just scolding others for the work I must do to support myself. 

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to not realize, in communicating with others in an open and honest manner much of the issues can be sorted out, instead of blaming and holding secret nasty thoughts about them. in this I see/realize for effective living holding nasty thoughts is the worse option.

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to not realize, I blame because I fear to take responsibility, therefore I forgive me for fearing to take responsibility for myself.

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to react angrily when I see another person is blaming or scolding or speaking in a blamy-tone of voice, or speaking with a fault-finding tone of voice, within this I forgive me for not realizing that I do the exact same thing and that is why I react to such in others. in this I forgive me for blaming,  speaking in a blamy tone of voice, or fault finding tone of voice. in this I forgive me for not supporting myself with breath/breathing when and as I am about to speak. 

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to react angrily when I hear the tone of voice that sounds like blaming or scolding or fault finding, in this I see/realize/understand instead of blaming the blame of another, I stop, I breathe and I let go.

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to not realize, blaming the blamer for blaming is still blaming, equal and one, I am doing the same thing. in this I forgive me for reacting to the mind-patterns of another which simply reflects my mind patterns. so I direct myself to breathe and support myself instead of blaming the blamer for blaming. I breathe and I let go off the reactions. 

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to secretly blame others for the apparent blames they do. in this I see/realize I am still blaming though silently. 

when and as I see myself blaming I stop I breathe. when and as I see myself reacting to others blaming, I stop, I breathe. in this I see/realize what is best for all is the principle. if I were the other person who is doing the blaming, how would I like to be supported? I sure won’t like any angry reactions coming my way. therefore I see/realize that I will direct myself to breathe, and remain within my physical when and as I see others blaming. I realize my non-reaction will support them. 

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Day 174 – Before blaming, place yourself in the shoes of others.

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I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to not realize, I have not placed myself in the shoes of another before I charge them or blame them.

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to not realize, I have not considered others before I charge them or blame them, while only look at my self-interest.

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to not realize, others are me in another life, equal and one, I could have easily be walking in their shoes, it just my allocation point gave me a different experience.

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to not realize, if I place myself in the shoes of another, I will see/realize/understand their starting point, what they have been through in their life path, before I adamantly judge them or blame them.

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to not realize, LIFE is equal and one, as every being is LIFE, and I am LIFE, therefore by simple deduction I see that I am in fact every being. in this I forgive me for living the self-interest but not the LIFE-interest.

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to not realize, the simplest solution to LIFE-interest living is doing what is best for all moment by moment. In any simple momentary situation, considering what is BEST for ALL is the key to LIFE-interest living, whereas self-interest living is only considering ME.

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to not realize, blame is self-interest where it seeks to point the finger at others while not taking responsibility within self. In this I forgive me for not realizing, the key is to bring any point back to myself, my participation in it, my creation of it. Who am I, what I accept and allow is the key.

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to not realize, desire, want, craving, possession, greed are all self-interest, while breathing here as the physical is LIFE-interest, living as life as breath.

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to not realize, I have to bring all the points back to myself, self first, before I charge others with blame or judgement.

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to not realize, it is a great self-responsibility to breathe and remain here because allowing and accepting blame is just that, pointing the finger at others while hiding my self-dishonesty within.  In this I see/realize/understand, its time for real brutal self honesty. Am I living in the interest of LIFE or in self-interest?

When and as I see myself blaming, charging, pointing the finger at others, I stop, I breathe, I realize whatever the evils I see in others in fact exist in me that I am avoiding to see. Blame is self-irresponsible, whereas taking the same within and looking at myself, how I created it, how I participate in it, will assist me much to overcome it.

When and as I see myself making judgements or blames, I stop, I breathe, I place myself in the shoes of another to understand their situation, in this I support myself and others, after all, LIFE is equal and ONE, what I do to another, I do unto myself.

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Day 142 – ‘Be Here’ = Be in this Breath, focus on the reality Here. Its the way end Habits.

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The urge to blame is lot more than just a mind pattern for me, its like a way of life, its how/who I am, blaming is second nature to me. Tonight while having dinner, I am please to report, I stopped the urge to blame by simply diverting my attention, our conversation elsewhere. “Oh look at that shop,” I recall saying that statement clearly to shit focus from a boiling urge within me to blame, the urge is to pay attention to what the mind was saying about the other person, about something they earlier said/did/gestured to me etc, ultimately it was none of it, simply my mind yelling at me “hey look at that gesture/comment/action and start blaming/scolding this person for it”.

Be Here, I told myself silently, Breathe, Be Here, breath-by-breath, within this breath just be here, don’t focus on what happened 10 mins ago or 5 mins ago. Be Here means, ONLY Here, at this very breath, and  nowhere else.

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to not realize, Be Here means simply to remain here within this Breath and focus on the reality Here within this Breath.

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to not realize, to Be Here means to leave the past moments/breaths aside and Be Here within this Breath as I breathe now.

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to not realize, past is gone forever, and the future is not here, but this breath is Here for me to Be Here.

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to not realize, LIFE is Here on this very Breath. within this I forgive me for not realizing, to LIVE as physical I must be Here within this breath.

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to not realize, Breathing with awareness is the key to life, to live. There is no other way.

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to not realize, my urge to blame others is only valid if I allow past breaths or future breaths to determine my course of action. hence I see/realize/understand, the urge to blame pattern/habit can be stopped/deleted simply staying within this breath.

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to not realize, blaming is not just a pattern, its a habit now, a physical habit, I just Have to blame somebody, its a way of life, therefore I see/realize/understand, to cut that habit/pattern down, I simply have to say NO to the mind, and remain within this breath.

When and as I see myself giving into my mind’s justifications, I realize its the old pattern, habit raising its ugly head again, therefore I stop it, and I Breathe to remain here. Simply NOT giving into mind’s cry to pay attention to it. I support myself by NOT listening to my mind, and remaining here by breathing.

I commit myself realize, that breathing effectively is the first step the cut mental habits. and therefore I commit myself to breathe and to BE HERE as breath as life.

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Day 112 – D(anger) of anger.

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I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to react in anger.

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to justify the anger within me.

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to believe that the anger within is caused by other people.

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to believe that my anger is created and caused by the behaviors of others, otherwise I am totally free from anger.

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to not realize, I am the cause and the creator of my own anger, not anyone else.

i forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to not realize, my anger will not disappear by itself.

I forgive myself that i have accepted and allowed myself to not realize, my anger will not end by the will of God or some other power outside of me.

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to hope and desire some force out there will remove my anger magically until then I can create/show deadly anger to others.

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to not realize, my anger, how I react in anger, how I speak/think in anger, is my own creation, i alone responsible for my anger within me, otherwise it will turn deadly slowly but surely as these are demon days.

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to not realize, anger is not like a flu, it will not disappear by itself over time, anger will only grow over time, unless I stop it as me.

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to not realize, either I must stop the anger, or let it turn deadly leading to death and destruction.

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to not realize, that there is no magical solution to end anger, no divine plan to end anger, no pill to end anger, no love to heal anger, no kindness to end anger, I alone must take the self-responsibility to end my own anger by directing myself to stop it.

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to believe that by changing the players or environment or jobs, i can change/end the anger within me, not realizing, nothing can cease the anger within me, as I am its creator and perpetuator.

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to not realize, even if I replace the whole planet and its population with another set, my anger will not cease, as I am its own creator. I am creating my anger by participating in angry thoughts/feelings/emotions etc.

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to not realize, nothing in this world, no-thing in this world, can cease my anger.

I see/realize/understand, my anger, the deadly danger of it, is my own creation, drop by drop, thought by thought, I created it, so I direct myself to stop it, thought by thought.

When and as each thought of anger arise, I stop, I breathe. I see/realize/understand, anger exist only in my thoughts, as old thoughts, as new thoughts, so I see/realize to end anger I must stop it within each thought. I direct myself to breathe, and STOP participating in angry thoughts.

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Day 80 – Talking ill about people behind their back is not cool.

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I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to gossip about another human being today.

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to speak ill about a person in a conversation when the other was not present.

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to not realize I have no rights whatsoever to speak ill about another specially behind their back.

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to make nasty comments about another saying how bad that person is etc, trying to put him down and make a mockery out of him.

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to mention people’s names and thereby subtly attack them behind their backs.

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to not realize now that I will never ever be able to stand in front of this being, and face him directly, because then I will know what ill I spoke about him behind his back.

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to not realize by gossiping I am creating more shame and points of difficulties for me.

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to speak ill about another and not realize that I have created a point of secret for me, which means I cannot face another openly as equals, rather have to hide when I see him again.

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to feel shame and guilty for gossiping today about another.

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed to believe that gossiping is a form of intimacy and friendship building. Meaning if I gossip about person A with person B, then I incorrectly believe that I am intimate with person B. In this I forgive me for believing that gossip is a great intimacy builder and friendship builder, not realizing gossiping about anyone to person B, will in fact destroys whatever I have with person B.

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to feel regret within me for gossiping, not realizing regret will not assist but only compound the situation.

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to feel bad for gossiping. not realizing feeling bad doesn’t help, rather, I let go off this, and commit myself to not walk the point of gossip again. Simply a decision to correct me, no need for regrets, or shame, or guilty/bad etc, because anything like that, if I allow then I am not dealing with the actual point about gossiping, rather hiding behind regret, shame, sad, bad, guilt feelings etc. so I direct me, when and as I see myself stepping into gossip land, to stop, and breathe.

I realize/see/understand talking ill about another behind their back is a gross violation of respect I can bestow upon him/her, and I realize that I will never like it if someone else speak ill about me behind my back.

When and as I see that a moment arise to mention people’s names, and their gory gossip details, I stop, I breathe, I stop mentioning names, I stop talking ill about anyone. However, If I require to speak about another’s actions/words that needs to be discussed, then I will speak about him/her as if that person is here present listening to everything that I say. There is no secret talking, I talk straight to the person, in their presence or absence. In that way, I will assure that no ill talking behind a person’s back happens. I direct me to consider all are equal and one as life as me, therefore in talking ill about others, I am only degrading and disrespecting myself. I stop, I breathe.

I commit myself to stop ill talking about others.

I commit myself to stop gossip about others.

I commit myself to stop mentioning people’s names so that I can attach blame or gossip to them.

I commit myself to breathe, when as as I see myself to stepping into the old pattern of ill talking about others.

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Day 52 – Still blaming, still blaming.

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I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to still exist in blaming.

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to still give into the self-rewarding thrill of blaming others to make me feel good about myself.

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to still find faults in others so that I can pound them via blame.

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to still blame and scold others, and find faults in others, all to make me feel good at the cost of others.

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to whinne and blame others.

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to blame others just to make myself feel good about me, because I get to feel self-rightous during blame.

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to desire/want/need to be self-rightous to feel great about myself by blaming others.

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to not realize in blaming others I get to hide my own shit, instead of taking self-responsibility to investigate myself, I take the short-cut which is to blame others.

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to blame others to put them down, to make them feel less-than, in all that to make me feel good about myself.

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to seek conflicts to pump up my mind-energy, within this, I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to blame others and scold others and fault-find others, all just to make me feel good about me, to gain energy for my mind to feel ALIVE by blaming others.

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to want to feel ALIVE by rising my mind-energy by blaming others.

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to not realize I am already ALIVE, no need for mind-energy to make me feel alive, I am here as breath. in breath, in breathing, I access the source/substance within me, and in ground the mind-energy towards the earth. So I do not need to blame, scold or fault-find others to feel ALIVE, as I am already ALIVE as Breath/breathing.

When and as I see myself blaming, scolding, find-faults in others, I know I am accessing an old pattern of BLAME, so I stop, I breathe, knowing that in breathing, I am accessing the very substance/source within me, and grounding the agitated mind-energy within me towards the earth. So when and as I see myself blaming, scolding, fault-finding, I stop, I breathe, I remain here as breath, as breath of life. I support myself, I direct myself with breathing.

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Day 13 – Blaming others silently within my mind is Abuse.

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Day 13 – Journey to Life. Blaming others within my silent secret thoughts is abusive.

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to blame others within the backchat of my mind.

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to have internal conversations within the backchat of my mind, where I am scolding and fault-finding others.

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to feel good about myself while I blame others within my thoughts. 

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to find faults about others within my  mind and then start blaming them within my mind. There is no actual physical conversation with another being, rather, just scolding them within my own mind only. 

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to not realize that I am accumulating and compounding energy towards another by blaming them within my mind, simply awaiting for the moment where consequences will be manifested within the physical. 

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to enjoy the blaming/scolding and internal conversations within my mind about another. 

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to not realize that when I blame others silently within my mind, I am in fact abusing them silently. My internal chats within my mind is in fact abusive towards another. 

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to abuse another within my mind by participating in thoughts about them. 

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to abuse another hence abuse life within my own mind silently and secretly. 

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to not realize my nasty thoughts about others within my own mind is in fact abuse against all LIFE. 

When and as I see myself abusing another within my mind, I STOP , I breathe, I realize all blames I entertain about another within my mind is abuse against life. Hence, when and as I see myself thinking nasty shit about another, I simply STOP, and I Breathe. I realize mind loves to blame, scold, and fault find, so I direct myself to STOP such abuses within my mind.

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