I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to gossip about another human being today.

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to speak ill about a person in a conversation when the other was not present.

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to not realize I have no rights whatsoever to speak ill about another specially behind their back.

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to make nasty comments about another saying how bad that person is etc, trying to put him down and make a mockery out of him.

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to mention people’s names and thereby subtly attack them behind their backs.

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to not realize now that I will never ever be able to stand in front of this being, and face him directly, because then I will know what ill I spoke about him behind his back.

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to not realize by gossiping I am creating more shame and points of difficulties for me.

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to speak ill about another and not realize that I have created a point of secret for me, which means I cannot face another openly as equals, rather have to hide when I see him again.

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to feel shame and guilty for gossiping today about another.

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed to believe that gossiping is a form of intimacy and friendship building. Meaning if I gossip about person A with person B, then I incorrectly believe that I am intimate with person B. In this I forgive me for believing that gossip is a great intimacy builder and friendship builder, not realizing gossiping about anyone to person B, will in fact destroys whatever I have with person B.

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to feel regret within me for gossiping, not realizing regret will not assist but only compound the situation.

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to feel bad for gossiping. not realizing feeling bad doesn’t help, rather, I let go off this, and commit myself to not walk the point of gossip again. Simply a decision to correct me, no need for regrets, or shame, or guilty/bad etc, because anything like that, if I allow then I am not dealing with the actual point about gossiping, rather hiding behind regret, shame, sad, bad, guilt feelings etc. so I direct me, when and as I see myself stepping into gossip land, to stop, and breathe.

I realize/see/understand talking ill about another behind their back is a gross violation of respect I can bestow upon him/her, and I realize that I will never like it if someone else speak ill about me behind my back.

When and as I see that a moment arise to mention people’s names, and their gory gossip details, I stop, I breathe, I stop mentioning names, I stop talking ill about anyone. However, If I require to speak about another’s actions/words that needs to be discussed, then I will speak about him/her as if that person is here present listening to everything that I say. There is no secret talking, I talk straight to the person, in their presence or absence. In that way, I will assure that no ill talking behind a person’s back happens. I direct me to consider all are equal and one as life as me, therefore in talking ill about others, I am only degrading and disrespecting myself. I stop, I breathe.

I commit myself to stop ill talking about others.

I commit myself to stop gossip about others.

I commit myself to stop mentioning people’s names so that I can attach blame or gossip to them.

I commit myself to breathe, when as as I see myself to stepping into the old pattern of ill talking about others.

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